Meet The Women In My Life – Part 3 – Anifa

Womens Month 2019 - Anifa-Web

Since International Women’s Day, (which was the 8th of March 2019), I’ve been sharing one interview a day.

To celebrate them, I’ve interviewed the women in my life to share their perspective on things. I included parents, siblings, cousins, aunties and even friends.

It’s no secret that we live in a male-dominated global culture and women are often at the shorter end of the stick, especially when they are more than capable to do what men can do in society, and often more! People are people, regardless of gender.

The coin does flip both ways so I look forward to doing one for the guys too.

Today’s interview is with my mom’s older sister Anifa…

 I remember my dad had to bribe the Counsellor in order for my mum to live with us.

Interviews coming each day for a month so make sure to subscribe, options found to the right or in the menu above.

International Women's Day 2019 - Anifa Omar

 

I’ve asked all the ladies the same questions and this is what they had to say…

Anifa Omar

Current location: Tamworth, England

Born in Salisbury, Rhodesia (which became Harare, Zimbabwe in 1980)

Anifa Omar - 60 - Phlebotomist
Anifa Omar – 60 – Phlebotomist

Hiya Aunty, what makes you a woman?

I am a strong person who makes life easier for my family. I am able to multi task in many ways. Giving birth is one of the most amazing things a woman can do.

Who is one of the women you respect the most and why?

Jane Omar my mother, who raised us on her own. My mother was married young and bore six children with my dad and only to be let down. She dusted herself off and started a new life for herself, because my dad decided to keep us all away from her. When my dad then abandoned us, my mum had to pick up the pieces and that’s why I am who I am, because of her hard work. Love you Jane. ❤️

Granny Jane Omar
Granny Jane Omar – Anifa’s mother

If you were a man, what do you think life would be like, as compared to
now?

Well for one, I would look after my family and love them like no tomorrow. Respect women and treat them like a Queen 👸 because without women, men would not be around and a man would not be the person he is today. Men need to be more responsible and faithful to all those they love.

What do you struggle with the most in life?

I struggle most with family. I pray we could all be closer and love each other more. To be there forever, for all, in sickness, health and death. I love my family very much and would do anything for them all. I just feel that the love in my family is often one-sided and that makes me sad 😔.

I pray one day hopefully we will be a proper happy family. 😁

What do you enjoy the most in life?

Being happy and in love with all those who are close to me. Spending time with my children and grandchildren, who I miss very much.

Anifa's grand kids in Zimbabwe
Anifa’s grandkids in Zimbabwe

What one thing would you like to tell all the women out there?

Love yourself and be proud to be who you are. Strong and beautiful.

What one thing would you like to tell all the men out there?

Grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Be proud fathers to all your children and be good husbands to your wives. Love them forever.

What is your dream?

I pray that I have good health so I can be there for all my family and live a happy, strong life. To have enough money to live a comfortable life with all my loved ones.

Anifa Omar
Anifa Omar

Anything else you would like to add?

I am the second eldest in a family of six. When growing up in the 60s, it was amazing. Years later we moved into a *coloured suburb called Arcadia. I remember my dad had to bribe the Counsellor in order for my mum to live with us! This was because my mother is black and my dad was mixed race. No black people were allowed to live in *coloured areas!

*Note that in Zimbabwe/Southern Africa, ‘coloured’ means mixed race/multiracial as opposed to African American/Black in other regions.

 

Anyway, to cut a long story short, our nightmare started. We went to visit our gran for the weekend, only to come home and find our mother gone! Dad tells us that we got a new mother. Life was hell and we were only little, still in primary school. We would be locked out of the house when we got home from school. That’s with no food and sometimes the neighbour would take us in till our dad came home.

Anifa Omar in Zimbabwe
Anifa Omar in Zimbabwe

Then the biggest nightmare began when our dad decided he wanted to move to Mozambique, but without his children, being me and my siblings. We had nowhere to go, so had to live with our grandmother in an African township where *coloured people weren’t accepted. Life was hard but we had to soldier on and had to grow up very fast.

I had to leave school at sixteen to go out and work so I could help my mum to look after my siblings. We moved to Southerton and then a new journey began for us all, and, our mother was always there with us. I am here now and very happy that I made a difference in my children’s lives and mine too.

Hahaha, we could write a book and call it the long winding road of The Omars. 😆😆

Thanks Anifa xo

Don’t miss this whole month’s Women’s Day special and get sent the next interview by subscribing to the right side of this page or by clicking here

Share the love 🙂
Facebooktwittergoogle_plusredditlinkedintumblrFacebooktwittergoogle_plusredditlinkedintumblr